martedì, giugno 28, 2005the truth about friendships
Last Sunday, a couple of my friends and I dined out… as a form of celebration because a friend from Italia arrived… We treated each other like no distance separated us for 2 years… Sobrang instant clique! She told us of all her experiences in the wonderful country, Italia. And we updated her with the latest chismax about our friendsheefs…
Taken 2 Years Ago
Taken Last Sunday at Greenbelt
Astig! This gave me a realization:Real friends are still friends even if they go far across the world / the galaxy.
Why am I saying this? It’s because there were times in my life where I’ve had “so-called” friends who, after just a couples of months/years, treated me like they never even heard my name.
Case No.1: Sarah Lenon a.k.a. Sarah, ang Munting Isnabera
We were the normal childhood BFF. We ate lunch and recess together, read books at the library, shared our deepest, darkest secrets. Inseparable. Then she transferred to another school. Naaalala ko pa. She even told me that we can contact each other through letters or something. But I tried sending her letters as many as I could, no reply came. I was able to have her phone number (which I got from a common friend). I excitedly dialed her number, and eagerly waited for her to pick up.Me: Hello
Hearing that was so heart-breaking, to think I was just 9 back then. Traumatic.
S.L.: Yes.
Me: Pede po makausap si Sarah.
S.L.: Eto na nga.
Me: Uy si Rossan toh!
S.L.: Huh? Rossan who?
Case No.2: Chrisy a.k.a. Chris-tranghero
Normal BFF rin kami. You know the grade school best friends. We were like long-lost sisters, until I transferred to CHA. I talked to her on the phone to update with what’s going on with my life and vice versa. Time passed. The phonecalls came less. In short, we drifted apart.
A couple of years after, a friend from CHA said she (CHA-friend) was coming back to visit our former school for the fair. Together with a couple more friends, we came to IHMS. Everything changed. The school grounds were different, even my former batchmates were a lot taller and looked more mature.
I was so excited to look for my old BFF, ‘cause I heard she still studied there. I think I saw her, but when I was about to say hello to her she just passed by like I’m somewhat of a stranger. Wow after 2 years of friendship went down the drain! Grabe!
Case No.3-***: Undisclosed
This case I would not further discuss. Let’s put it this way: After all my heart-wrenching experiences with friendships, I was a dupe for ever expecting that everything were still the same.
Who was I kidding? People change for the better or the worse. I blame myself for being so idealistic and, up to now, hopeful that we could still go back to those good ‘ol days.
Advice to self:
Keep the best of memories you had with your friends. In this way whatever happens in the future wouldn’t hurt you or disappoint you. You’ll just have those best memories to remind you of how a good friend they were. And girl, forgive them for it! ‘Wag bitter!
Advice to you:
Don’t be too idealistic like me. Hey, these experiences will let you know who your true friends are. And this will make you value these friendships. Enjoy life with them!
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P.S. Ciao, Bella-s! I had fun with you guys and I hope we make the most out of these few months na nandito si Dianne!
P.P.S. Guys, try the BOLLYWOOD Bistro Bar. They have the best Naan and Indian dishes that I know of. The ambiance is superb too! O diba plugging?!
do_Rossy got back from Oz
at 5:30 PM
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i tried using the mirc chatrooms a couple of times. just to find people to talk to while downloading music or doing some other stuff in the internet. pang-ubos time.. don't get me wrong i tried chatting before..pero 3 years ago pa un. i just wanna know kung pareho pa rin yung style sa mga ganitong sites.
i observed na a lot of them have different approaches when it comes to talking to people.. given na, they use pc's and don't actually interact personally, they tend to be more direct..na nakakagulat na. (biruin mo sabihan ka ng mga indecent proposals talo pa ang mga D.O.M..how rude! but i bet they couldn't even get to say a word pag harap-harapan.) others, even ask for vital statistics..wow! miss universe to a... meron naman, mga kala mo ang tagal nyo na magkakilala kung magsalita. even to the point na bobolahin ka na and they'll court you -take note using the pc when you've only met each other like 15 minutes ago! (one tried to buy a gift when he hasn't even seen the person he's giving the gift to. soulmates daw kayo..nye! hanep un a?! ) **ok, i respect those who find love in these chatrooms i heard of people happily married who met here..kudos sa inyo and have a good life!**
and there are those average joes , who I think are like me--honestly, who re plainly looking for someone to talk to without pretensions. they respect the idea of these chatrooms, which are mainly (and obviously) for chatting--no strings attached. this type of people you find once or twice lang..bilang na bilang...
so what am i trying to say? people need people..kahit pa sa chat iba man ang approach all are finding their own ways of getting to meet new people may it be for just plain talking even to love..
as the saying goes, "no man is an island".. mamatay ka siguro kung wala kang kausap.
pero ba't kaya ganon? God designed us to commune with Him, but then we go on searching for people to talk to, yes even in chatrooms. but the fact is He's just there and we need not search for any other.. how ironic.
do_Rossy got back from Oz
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as my sisters and i were watching Q-pids...one of them blurted out the words "regional defect" (pertaining to one of girls who was having a hard time speaking both Tagalog and English during an interview.. due to her being a "probinsyana").
i got offended not for my own sake but for hers.. the fact that at times the word "defect" meant some kind of a disability or something derrogatory.. na-offend talaga ako
kung ba't naman kasi yun pang mga term na yon ang ginamit. bakit ganito ako mag-react? well, excuse me! For me, coming from a province doesn't make anyone less of a person especially when they speak with a thick accent and couldn't very well please the criticizing Manileños' "high" standard for speaking both Tagalog and English..
and besides, most of us are from these so-called "regions" / provinces. the only diference is that we didn't grow up there so we weren't able to pick up that way of speaking..
sa opinyon ko... lahat tayo pantay walang may matatawag na may "regional defect".. so screw that person who invented that term! dang!
do_Rossy got back from Oz
at 7:29 PM
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those were the hardest days of my life. i haven't felt such pain... such pain all because of a little puppy.. you may think i'm pathetic just like my 7-year-old cousin who told me that "zui" was just a dog, no big deal.
kala ko rin ganon lang, but i never thought i'd be so attached even for just one short month..
i remember when mom brought her to us. she was just 3-months old..she looked at us with those cute eyes with innocence and wonder..
in just a few weeks, we easily got close..all of us, each member of the family bonded with her..we treated her like family and pampered her. she was dear to us..
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till she got sick..
we didn't know what to do. i got down on the floor and stroked her gently..trying to make her feel better..nothing worked..with my eyes closed, i cried to God like a child asking to give her a chance, another chance..make her better. and He did answered my cry and healed her the next day..
the following day was even worse than the first attack... she felt sicker and didn't want to get up.. we tried giving her medication...and told the people who were left in the house the things she needed..we left thinking we'll be coming back with her feeling much better..
we came home...and called out to her..we saw her lying on the floor.. it seemed she was sleeping.
i came near her and stroked her face..it felt cold. i told my sister to see if she's breathing.. she said she's gone. i didn't want to believe it..i tried to talk to her and stroke her face again.. it was cold. i picked her up..she was stiff and was heavy..
it didn't sink in until we came into our room..ate miday started crying and i did too.. joy got teary-eyed. mom and dad got sad.."zui really was gone"
we told some of my friends, and everytime my sisters and i cry when we share them the story..
i think the rest of my family are doing well now..they do cope well.
me? a friend told me that there is an assurance of what the dog feels before she dies..
when her eyes are wide open, she died in pain..
while with her eyes closed she died and went to doggy heaven with joy in her heart..
our baby left us with her eyes closed and with a faint smile..
i'm gonna be fine..but i don't think i'm ready for another "zui" yet..Ü
do_Rossy got back from Oz
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